Posts tagged ‘marriage’

December 8th, 2013

Love, Philosophy, and Love

by Max Andrews

264207_10150227244710163_6694857_nWhen you say “I love you” to your fiancé[e], spouse, boyfriend, or girlfriend the profundity behind that declaration is incredible.  So, if my beautiful wife asks, “Why do you love me?” what do I say?  Well, I give her my reasons of course… but at what point do I originate my reasons?  Yes, God has orchestrated the world that it be this way but what factors are involved in God’s providential molding?

I believe the question of love ultimately comes down to the individual’s agency, their free desire and choice to love.  If all my reasons to love are external then that would seem to imply that there could be external reasons for me to stop loving.  Here’s a few examples. I love my wife because:

  • She has a beautiful smile.
  • She is fun.
  • She is intelligent
  • She has gorgeous eyes.
  • Her personality complements mine.
  • She is kind and gentle.
  • We have memorable moments.
  • She makes me happy
  • Etc.

This is by no means an exhaustive list but I chose features and examples that a lot of people will say up front.  All of these are external features and reasons.  What if these change and

March 4th, 2012

The Husband of One Wife and Elder Qualifications Regarding Marriage

by Max Andrews

The Greek translation of a “husband of one wife” (1 Tim. 3.2) has often been misunderstood to meaning “not remarried,” which is unlikely.[1]  Remarriage for divorced women and widows were mandatory under Roman law and the Pastorals specifically allow it (1 Tim. 5.14; cf. 1 Cor. 7.27, 39).  The phrase is much more likely to mean that the leaders of the church were expected to have high moral standards.[2]  This early church, as it is today, is highly influenced by the culture in which the church resides.  The church leaders are expected to have high moral standards with this respect.  Those who attended church ought to have been known to be sexually moral.  For the leaders of the church, it was not enough to be technically faithful because the Greco-Roman culture would allow a man to have a mistress without being guilty of adultery.[3]  In light of this historical background, the grammatico-historical interpretation should be preferred to mean that the leaders of the church should only have sexual relations and marital fidelity with his [one] wife.

December 22nd, 2011

Marriage–Theological and Practical Readiness

by Max Andrews

The following is a guest blog post by Bryan Raszinski.  Bryan is a Religion undergraduate at Liberty University.

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Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless. So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church, because we are members of His body.” (Ephesians 5:22-30, NASB)

Going back and forth the last few years to college and then home has definitely changed the way I see things and what it takes to be a man of the gospel ; a man who, on a daily basis, declares he is going to take up his cross and follow Jesus no matter the cost. I have also learned a lot about marriage in its self and going back and forth have seen two parts that I think need to be addressed because, for the most, one or the other is given the priority and the one that is not given priority seems to be ignored (this is not the case for every single couple getting engaged to be married I am sure but the trend seems that most are this way). At school I see the practical readiness of marriage set while the theological readiness seems to take a seat it should not and at home I see the exact opposite the theological readiness takes the priority and the practical readiness takes the seat.  Both are essential before tying the knot and while no couple is ever completely ready to be married and knows how everything will go, the important thing remains that in order to even get engaged these two things need to be settled and discussed so both the future husband and wife know what the other expects from them.